Once a female friend and I were having a conversation regarding dating and she proposed the idea that people usually date others who are in the same tier of looks as they are. I have a couple thoughts I would like to hit on this one. Let’s hop into a little Funkosophy!
First off, I can see where she was going with this and to some extent I agree, but, if I recall the conversation correctly, she doesn’t be that people date up or down a tier. I do, figuratively and literally. Technically, I can’t say I have dated up or down a level, but I am willing to and there are always exceptions which is why I say “literally.” Whether an outsider thinks I am in the same level is all subjective. Still, people will, if given the option date up a level and I think that a person’s personality is what allows this. Hypothetically speaking, if everyone one of the opposite sex in your tier and above had completely heinous personalities you would be willing to date down a tier for the possibility of finding someone with a good personality. To the same extent, if you have a good personality you have your tier +1 allowing you to be the benefactor of this past scenario. Do we date people who are about as good-looking as we are? Most likely. If so, is it movable? Yes.
My second pondering on this…what tier do I fall on? Is it all just self-image? Yes, it’s subjective so you may agree or disagree with me on this, but I don’t think I am in “the highest tier.” I might be a step down at best. I, generally, consider myself rather average looking. I am certainly not a young David Beckham. I think my sense of style, awareness of what works and doesn’t, etc works in my favor and bumps me up a little, but slap me in jeans and a t-shirt along with many other average Joes and what do you get? Just a lineup of average people. I’m not fishing for a compliment (though you may not believe me) and like I said earlier, it’s subjective. Maybe there are a hundred tiers? If that is the case and I’m on Tier 99, that’s d@mned good (unless one hundred is the low!). If there are three tiers, then I am second best and second worst. All I know is I am not David Beckham, Hugh Grant, George Clooney, Tom Cruise, etc. I’d rather be who I am anyways. :-P
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