Tiered Dating

Once a female friend and I were having a conversation regarding dating and she proposed the idea that people usually date others who are in the same tier of looks as they are.   I have a couple thoughts I would like to hit on this one.  Let’s hop into a little Funkosophy!

                First off, I can see where she was going with this and to some extent I agree, but, if I recall the conversation correctly, she doesn’t be that people date up or down a tier.  I do, figuratively and literally.  Technically, I can’t say I have dated up or down a level, but I am willing to and there are always exceptions which is why I say “literally.”  Whether an outsider thinks I am in the same level is all subjective.  Still, people will, if given the option date up a level and I think that a person’s personality is what allows this.  Hypothetically speaking, if everyone one of the opposite sex in your tier and above had completely heinous personalities you would be willing to date down a tier for the possibility of finding someone with a good personality.  To the same extent, if you  have a good personality you have your tier +1 allowing you to be the benefactor of this past scenario.  Do we date people who are about as good-looking as we are?  Most likely.  If so, is it movable?  Yes.

                My second pondering on this…what tier do I fall on?  Is it all just self-image?  Yes, it’s subjective so you may agree or disagree with me on this, but I don’t think I am in “the highest tier.”  I might be a step down at best.  I, generally, consider myself rather average looking.  I am certainly not a young David Beckham.  I think my sense of style, awareness of what works and doesn’t, etc works in my favor and bumps me up a little, but slap me in jeans and a t-shirt along with many other average Joes and what do  you get?  Just a lineup of average people.  I’m not fishing for a compliment (though you may not believe me) and like I said earlier, it’s subjective.  Maybe there are a hundred tiers?  If that is the case and I’m on Tier 99, that’s d@mned good (unless one hundred is the low!).  If there are three tiers, then I am second best and second worst.  All I know is I am not David Beckham, Hugh Grant, George Clooney, Tom Cruise, etc.  I’d rather be who I am anyways. :-P

Loneliness and tact

     I'm only going to say this once, which is weird because if you are blogging it then you are saying it as many times as someone decides to read it.  Either way...here's another Funkosophy.

      I get lonely, much like everyone does at times, but I never say anything about it because no matter how lonely I may be or why there is no justification.  I have many friends and so if I am just physically or mentally lonely it is my own fault for not calling up a friend to hang out and converse.  And if I am emotionally lonely, particularly, there is even less of an excuse.  There are more than a couple women I know who would be more than willing to love me if I gave them the chance.  Obviously, I feel reciprocation is equally as important.  It is because of this, and out of respect for them and their emotions that I do my best, even if I feel like I am Omega Man and misunderstood, that I do not say anything and deal with it in my head.  The ship will right itself eventually and thus there is no need to call on someone who is dealing with their own personal storm to set sail for me.  Yes, I get lonely, but it is my own fault.